Friends; Three

You have saved me
More times
Than I can count

But also
You are just my
Comfiest friend

There is something
About being next to you
Furniture in your house
Sidekick to your adventurings

I love
That we are so dissimilar
And yet
We are similar

There is a strong bond
Walking alongside each other
For so long

You are brilliant
You are such a good listener
You roll your eyes
So well
At my stupidities
And laugh
So hard
At my amusements

How I miss you
Such depth
Of emotion
Of thought
Of experience

You got me
I didn’t feel alone
In my thoughts
In my fears

And there’s a piece of me
While you are not here

Film: Wonderful Women and Pizza

Date night!

I was unbelievably excited about this. We hadn’t had a date night in a Very. Long. Time.

The husband desperately wanted to see Wonder Woman, so I put my Spider-Man preference aside and off we went.

I have two things to say about the evening:

The first, and amusing, thing happened before we even entered the cinema. We were seeing the film at our small local cinema, and as we waited, two big islander guys walked past into cinema 3 holding pizzas.

“That is so cool!” I thought. I didn’t know you could do that. I’d once smuggled burgers into a film in my giant handbag, but a pizza? They were thinking big. I liked it.

A minute later this was shattered, as a cinema employee walked into cinema 3 empty handed, and returned a few minutes later with two pizzas. Apparently you definitely cannot do that.

So onto the second thing: the movie, Wonder Woman! Gal Gadot, action, romance, even some comedy! All the good stuff.

As I touched on earlier, I thought I would have preferred Spider-Man, but I am very glad the husband convinced me otherwise. Wonder Woman was excellent.

Gal Gadot nailed it as Diana/Wonder Woman. Whoever cast this film knew exactly what they were doing. Gadot was believable as the independent and powerful warrior, but equally as the compassionate, devastated bleeding heart.

This movie was an action film, but it was also very moving. Chris Pine plays Diana’s leading man Steve, an American spy in WW1. The contrast between Diana’s black and white idealism and Steve’s pragmatism when it comes to war makes for a film that has depth in ideas as well as all the shooting, explosions and hand to hand combat your heart desires.

Wonder Woman has been out for 7 weeks, and is still performing well, which just goes to show that a DC comic-inspired action film with a female lead and female director was a fantastic idea. About time.


Politics for Babies: Australian Republic

Mumma: “oh bubba they are talking again about a vote for Australia to become a republic! It has been about 20 years since the last one. What’s a republic? Well it’s pretty much what we have now, but without the Queen. And probably a President instead of Prime minister. Oh, but you like the Queen? That’s ok Bubba, so does everyone else. Don’t worry, they’re going to wait until she passes the crown to Prince Charles, and then the republic vote will pass just fine.”

Factis Non Verbis

Factis non Verbis.

It’s a Latin motto, used by schools, churches, community groups.

It literally translates to “deeds, not words”.

Benjamin Franklin said it this way:
“Well done is better than well said”.

Actions, words.

Words can be pretty, but empty if not followed by action. Theory is easy to get behind, agreeing with an idea takes very little from us. Action is harder. Action requires our time, our effort, our presence. Our sacrifice.
Theory just requires our mind. Our lip service.

Great history is full of ideas that were put into action. It’s all very well to think that slavery isn’t a great way to treat people. It’s another thing to act, to fight for your belief to be reflected in reality, for slavery to be abolished. It’s all very well to think that race or colour shouldn’t be a basis for discrimination; it’s another thing to make sure it doesn’t happen.

Words aren’t bad though. Not at all! It’s not really words versus actions. Words inspire, articulate, provide vision and direction and meaning.
But they simply aren’t enough.
Without action, words are nothing.

Martin Luther King had a dream. But his articulate words are only remembered today because they were accompanied by action. Effort.

Words AND actions.

I write this as a reminder to myself more than anything. There are many words here, but what of actions?

See it.
Say it.
But then go and do it.

Factis non Verbis.

Politics for Babies: G20

Mumma: “G20! They’re having a big meeting in Hamburg, bubba. No, Hamburg is a place, we’re not having them for lunch. Meetings are when groups of people gather together in a room and sit around talking about things. It’s a bit like a family Christmas really. There are crazy Uncles like Trump, who are all ready to rub shoulders with the big guns, but nobody’s sure if him and Uncle Putin are going to crack open some beers together or end up in a punch-up out the back. They’re probably supposed to be talking about serious things like finance but really they just want to get together to have a good gossip about the latest outrageous thing estranged cousin Kim Jong-un has been up to. What’s that bubba? You want a hamburger? That probably was the most important thing, yes.”

Footy And Life

There’s been quite a lot of disappointing news about AFL footballers over the last few weeks, predominantly incidents where players have punched others on the field.

It’s not a good look for the sport, and as a fan it’s pretty frustrating.

But it’s made me think back to a moment that’s stuck with me, a moment where I thought “wow, he gets it” when listening to a footballer speak.

It was 2010, Brownlow Medal night (Australian football’s MVP medal for all those non-Aussies) and the winner was giving his acceptance speech.

It was Chris Judd.

He used the word “real” multiple times. Pointing out that football isn’t the real world. That the heroes of football aren’t the real heroes in life. That they have a place as role models for kids, but they’re not the real role models.

He talked about his motivation for moving back to Melbourne from Perth, changing football clubs, as wanting “a life outside of the footy club”.

This man isn’t perfect, but he understands.

He was awarded the AFL’s highest individual honour, twice. He won a premiership, and as team captain. He was captain of two teams. He played at the highest level, but he still kept in perspective that it is just a game.

At the end of the day, it’s not real; it’s just a game. It’s not the real battle. He loved football, but he knew that there is more to life than football.

And I was so glad that night, listening to him, that his talent in this sport gave him the microphone. That as much as he shied away from being a role model, in that speech he shone through as one.

Love your sport, kids.

Play hard.

Play well.

Don’t give in.


Enjoy it.

But remember that it’s just a game.

Film: Villains In 3D

I’ve seen two films recently that I really enjoyed. Very different films, very different genres, but with a common link that I found myself bringing up when others asked me what I thought of them.

The first film was Guardians of the Galaxy 2; Chris Pratt, good music, sci-fi, action, fun.

The second film was The Edge of Seventeen; Hailee Steinfeld, snappy dialogue, teen angst, pulling on the heart strings.

(SPOILER ALERT – key plot points will be discussed below)

What did these two very different films have in common?
The way that they dealt with some of their ‘villains’.

There are truly awful people in life – don’t get me wrong – that’s not who I’m talking about here. I’m thinking Hollywood film antagonists; rivals, siblings, the popular kid, the dragon.

Some films take pleasure in the downfall of these villains. That can be the villains role, to play a part in resolving the storyline by being crushed by the hero. Or taking a back seat to the hero. The hero getting what they want, at the expense of the villain.

In the real world, the majority of people aren’t monsters. There are people we don’t get along with, people we come up against, people who make mistakes or choices that hurt us. Flawed characters. But they have their own story too.
And that’s what I enjoyed about these films. Their characters were not two dimensional.

In The Edge of Seventeen, Nadine’s brother Darian is initially set up as her rival, the popular kid that gets all the attention. But as the film goes on we see he is his own character, with his own struggles. And we feel for him. Darian is not actually a villain at all, he is one of the heroes of this tale. Their story is resolved by them coming together.

Another character, Nick, is set up as the brooding, juvy-attending bad boy/love interest/jerk. We can all see where this is going, he is only interested in sex, he has no interest in Nadine as a person. But at that moment in the film where we all hold our breath, fearing our lead female is about to be sexually assaulted, our jerk/villain is three dimensional. Nick is clearly confused by Nadine’s mixed signals. He is visibly annoyed and frustrated. He does just want to have sex. But he’s not a rapist. He immediately responds to her saying no. There are awful men out there who will not take no for an answer. But not all of them.

Then we have Guardians of the Galaxy 2. I saw this in Gold Class with the husband and I so enjoyed this film. I’m pretty sure it wasn’t just the food and recliner?

As a sequel, I thought it ran the line well of continuing the humour and feel of the original, but taking the story and characters in new directions. Two of the previous villainous characters are given depth in this film; back story, emotion, reasons for their choices.

Yondu was a gruff, tough guy who kidnapped Chris Pratts character Peter as a child. But in this film we see that Yondu’s actions were not all selfish. Some of them were deeply paternal, with a hidden motivation, protecting Peter. Yondu turns out to have a bit of hero in him too.

The character Nebula has always acted in a murderous fashion towards her sister Gamora, with nothing but hatred. In this film the sisters are in situations where they are able to share some of their feelings and motivations. We learn that Nebula’s hatred has stemmed from their fathers treatment of her, and her need for Gamora to be a sister to her which went unfulfilled. They had misunderstood each other. They had both made mistakes.

Lots of big Hollywood films love the villain; love to crush the villain. I found it refreshing that these two sought to include their stories, and make them 3D.